Indian’s Future Pillar in Mechanic Shed

Today I want to tell you all a story may not be so special to you, but of course so different from ours.

 This story is of a 12 years old boy in Pudupet (Chennai).

I met him one day in a mechanic shed where he went to repair his bike while coming back from his office. A boy approached him offering the help for his bike.

There was nothing special seeing a 12-year-old boy working in a mechanic shop. I explained the problem in Tamil. He gave a difficult expression. And I was there with a confused look.

 

“Anna, Hindi ???”

“Hindi??” I was not much comfortable with Hindi, but tried to manage to converse with him in broken Hindi.

While the boy was repairing the problem with bike, I asked him, “neither you know Tamil nor you look like a Tamilian!”

That boy, “you are right sir!”

“What is your name? And since how long you are here in Chennai?”

“Since 2 years sir... My name is Mohammed Rabbi Husain. Came here when I was 10 years old.” He replied without even taking his eye away from his work.

“Hmmm... so what about your parents? Your Home?” I could not resist asking him some more question.

“My Home? Family? They are in Assam Sir. Do you know where it is? Northeast of India, near China. It is too far from here.” He took a deep breath and paused for a moment, “It take 4-5 days to come from there” One could feels the pain in his voice.

“So, when you met your parents last time? Any plan to go home in near future?” This was my next question.

“Saw them 2 years back while leaving home, and I don’t know when will I meet them”, he was busy with his work.

“So how you came here? ...so far from home?” even it was not of my business, I shoted another question.

“My uncle’s son lives here since last eight years. Last time when he came to our place, my parents send me here with him” he paused for a while, “my mother’s earning was not enough for the family and father is not in condition to work. So I had to come here to earn as my cousin brother promised to get some work here. I have to earn and collect money to send home. I have an elder sister to get marry, I have to help mother to collect her dowry money.”

I was speechless. It was not as if story of Rabbi Husain was so unique and special. There were lakhs of Rabbi Husain in different part of India with different names.

“So what about your studies? You don’t want?” unwillingly I asked this question that made him looks more pity.

“I want to get education sir. I want to learn English and maths and get a job. But neither I can give fee for a school nor can leave my job.

Job is my need today and very important for my family, and I know that getting educated is my need of future, for my life....but I have no idea how to get both. So, trying to fulfil the need of today.”

These words really touched my heart.

Such children are working for daily wage of Rs. 200. Along with that, get scolded and beaten by the owner. Stay away from home, trying to learn the work but interested to study but not able to study.

Right now, he cannot read or write English. It is good that he learns a job and he can have his own mechanic shed when he will be of 20 to 25 but what about the outside world knowledge.

There are lakhs of such children, but may be one in twenty high-class children.

Don’t we have any responsibility for such under privilege children?

·        Can’t we save money avoiding 2-3 Pizza, McD and CCD hangout and help one such needy?

  

·        So many private schools are taking tones of money from everyone; can’t they adopt 2-3 children and educate them free?

  

·        Only spending money in Disc-Bar, Expensive Restaurants and parlour proves that we are highly educated and modern?

.....as narrated by one of my friend from Chennai (Mohammad Umar)

JuStice: Power, Politics, Punishment and Crime

Nine months, really a very short period. At least for the Indian law system.

In the second week of September, Indian law helped the victim’s soul to rest in peace.

The news of Delhi gang rape on 16^th December’12 night had shook whole India. Even the news highlighted across the international border, raising the question of safety of girls in India and law system supporting the females.

One of the shameful moments as being an Indian.

I was never afraid of roaming alone outside the country but being an Indian- Indian girl, I have to think ten times before even stepping out of the house, going out of city alone in my own country. Forget about being alone, all these are bullshit excuses. No matter a girl is alone or with her mom-dad, her brother, her friend, her husband or anyone else. She is not safe to roam around without a fear.

The Indian law has accepted those four people had made the crime and sentenced to hang until dead. However, along with this some other questions popping up in my mind.

·        We agree that whatever they had done was horrible and cannot be forgiven at all. Even if they have a family, a wife, children, mother crying to save them. How can we forget that the girl was also a daughter, a sister, a friend, a niece and a human being with whom they had behaved worst than an animal behaves.

It was not a mistake. They knew very well what they were doing, and so they very much deserve the death punishment.

It should be an example for others so that they should think hundred times before even trying to commit such crime.

·        The second question is,

If instead of these people there would have been people from high-class family, even then our law would have took decision so fast?

Of course not. In that situation this case would have been in trial for more than 9 years instead of months and that too without any result.

Should we believe only poor people commit crime deserve punishment, not the one who have power- the power of money and politics......?????

A Letter from a Father..

 Twenty-six years before, two beautiful angels were born in our house. They filled our house with all the colors of joy and happiness. We named them, Aadya and Aarav.

Me and my wife got busy in raising our angels and in our new life. Time started flying soon and we celebrated the first birthday of Aadya and Aarav. Then we sent them school for the first time.

 

They made us a proud parent with their outstanding performance at school. Especially my Aadya was too talented and her brother always support her in her all achievements.

She finished her primary school, then high school and in the appearing year only Aadya and Aarav both got admission in IIT Delhi. It was the partying moment for parent like us.

After four years of the hard work, Aadya was placed in Intel and Aarav got the opportunity to work with Yahoo India.

Me and my wife celebrated the moment of achievement and success of our children. Moreover, one moment that is more special was awaited next.

Yeah, the wedding bell was to be ring.

As soon the news got spread to our relatives and friends that Aadya and Aarav coming home after completing their studies, many proposals started coming for the wedding.

But there was something that broke me, I was shocked and disappointed too. I gave my both children equal love, care and opportunity everything they needed. And they both gave me the same love and care, respect and made me proud.

But the proposals we got for my son’s wedding, family wanted to buy my son with lakhs of rupees for their daughter. And the wedding proposals for my daughter came with the offer of buy their son with lakhs of rupees for my daughter.

I asked, "WHY"? Why is it like this? Why should I follow such evil practice in the name of tradition and culture when I am not following all the traditions in the same way it was there? Why only these things should be followed?

For my daughter people are bringing the alliance who are earning either little bit less or equal to her, even then why should I pay for her wedding? Only the reason is that she is a girl?

Moreover, for my son, why should I take money to get him married? Does dowry promise happy wedding life?

Marriage is not only of a girl, it is for a guy too, then why should a girl family have to bear the expense and if the guy family cannot afford, is their really need of Big Fat Wedding for a happy life ahead? Can anyone promise me this?

If I will get the logical answers for my all questions, then I will accept the dowry and will happily give for my children’s wedding.

But if not, I am sure  I will get an eligible groom for my daughter for a dowry free wedding and will like my son to marry an educated  girl from a middle class family who has spend the money on the education of their daughter instead of saving it for her wedding and dowry. My family do not want to show-off for 3-4 days but we want a happy life ahead.

Mine was a wedding with No dowry and so will be my children’s.

I know this will be like a drop in ocean that cannot change the society. However, I cannot keep crying in the name of society and tradition and this cannot stop to take stand in my life. I got chance two times and feel proud that I took stand in my life.

Let the society people think whatever they want to say, let them say whatever they want to say, I do not care.
I am not like other orthodox who like to debate on tables but do not dare to implement even in their life.

If we cannot afford Skoda, it does not mean we take loan to get one, neglecting other important things in life. If I can afford Hyundai or Ford, I will buy that and will enjoy my life with my family.

Show-off for a day is never long lasting, understand the fact. This will neither help the life of children. Moreover, the so-called society will talk for time being, until you support them with your silence and showing that you did a mistake.

My wife and both children support me for this and for the simple wedding.

Finally, my daughter got an eligible groom for her who is marrying her and my son is marrying a girl, as he wanted one to be his life partner.
Very soon my both children getting married and I can proudly say, there is not even a single paisa dowry is involved in both the wedding. And no big fat wedding too.

People who want to give blessing to the new couple are most welcomed. And who want to use it as gossips and to complaint for not giving a big feast for the wedding, they will never stop complaining, no matter what the case is.

Life is yours

Choice is yours

Decision is yours

‘Stop complaining about a crime if you too are involved in such a big one’

TAKING and GIVING the Dowry is a Crime and an Offensive Act

From

A proud Father

to all the fathers and future fathers